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The Answers
Kristal asks:
If you could have a threesome with two other men who and why??
Wow. I wasn't ready for that one!
Lenny Kravitz and Robert Ri'chard. For now, at least.
Jaqua asks:
What was the most freakiest sexual thing you have ever done, and the most outlandish place you have ever had sex?
Oh my gosh....to be perfectly honest, I have never done anything exually that would be defined as freaky. Just freaky people. Which would be a Que or two. The most outlandish place would be on my roommate's bed in undergrad. But not with my roommate.
This is embarassing. :-/
Perquita asks:
This maybe considered a dumb ass question, but I'm going to ask anyhow. How are you planning on having children? Are your hopes to have them biologically, adopt or both. Just curious. Either way, you would be a wonderful father.
No question is dumb ass! And thanks for the compliment!
If I am relatively broke for the rest of my life, then I will adopt. DC does not discriminate against gays and lesbians or single people who want to adopt children though the city. I was very encouraged when I heard this.
If I enjoy a certain amount of wealth, I would like to both adopt and have a surrogate. It means a lot to me to have a child who is related to me by blood.
I would not choose any of my existing friends to carry the child. It just becomes way too complicated. Plus I am already crazy, and so are all my friends. If I recruit a good surrogate, at least the kid has a 50-50 chance at sanity. :-)
Great question.
Karai asks:
what's your perspective on the right way to sustain/grow a gay relationship? (due to the fact that they do evolve at a fast pace, sometimes it's hard to keep from just becomin cut buddies and ending it...feel me?)
Wow, that's a hard question!
Communication is always key. You have GOT to communicate your feelings if you want things to work. You can't say nothing and assume your partner understands. I have had my heart broken too many times by dudes who said they wanted me but changed their minds, but still kept me around.
As it pertains to gay relationships in particular, I believe that the same level of "outness" is paramount. Men on the DL who fall in love with men who are out need to either get over it and move on or have plans to come out. It's not fair to a man who is out to have to go back in the closet because his lover isn't ready. I do think it's POSSIBLE to cultivate a relationship with a man who isn't as out as you are if you BOTH communicate well from the outset.
And finally...gay men should be ENCOURAGED. It's simply not true that gay relationships don't last. We just don't think they don't last becase we don't hang out with gay men in their fifties. :-) Do you REALLY think Deacon Smith and Deacon Jones are "just roommates" after 60 years??? lol
Kenneth asks:
Hey it's your fan again. Don't think of me as a stalker. Why is it that a person as connected and seemingly sincere and beautiful inside [is] intolerably single?
That's the million dollar question.
I don't know.
Posted by Rashid on May 16, 2005 9:38 AM