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The Queernet
So last night I got online and started telling Diddy about this guy I met. The problem is not trying to determine whether the guy is gay (which is usually my number one obstacle -- blasted straight dudes!) but moreso trying to determine whether he is involved with anyone.
It's a tricky situation. It's not like dude is your average mail carrier or bus driver. It's kinda important that I find out as much as reasonably possible before I step to him. There could be consequences and repercussions if this isn't handled delicately.
So I tell Diddy these things (and more) and he's telling me to use the Queernet. Which is basically another word meaning "ask the gay folks you know -- ONE of them must know him."
And ordinarily, this usually works. I've never really knowingly and aggressively used my Queernet....it just sorta happened that somebody knew somebody who knew somebody. Happened quite a lot last year among the gay black blogger boys. Happened an awful lot (and still happens) when it comes to the Principal. (I don't know if I ever had a code name for him.) In fact, at Convention, somebody told me they knew his best friends. I was like damn....and the next day, he emailed me. That was crazy. I still kinda love him. That sucks.
But I digress.
Bus how the dude I'm trying to get to know isn't even a blip on my Queernet? I am like WTF?
So I am like gonna have to figure out a way to ask him out. That's insane, what am I, like 15? Ugh!
lol
Like I said, it's a delicate situation....
He's cute to me. Slim (they always are, aren't they?)....kinda light skinned. Well, he's lighter than me, which means he's just plain light skinned.
My weakness, as I think I stated within the past few weeks, is really talented men. Like for real, look back on my greatest loves, so to speak, and they are really all high caliber, high quality. And if they weren't at the top of their game, they had that potential. Even dude I went on a date with in January.... degree from a Big East school, in grad school, Greek.... I coulda overlooked the physical imperfections if he wasn't argumentative for no damn reason.
On a related note, so me and one of my soror/friends were talking about relationships and whatnot....actually, this also relates to a conversation I had with a frat during convention....
People really kill me talking about how long it's been since they've had any ass....and it's like two weeks. WTF???? Gimme a break....the last time I had any lovin', I'm sure Another World was still on the air. LOL jk.....but it has been a very long time.
("No wonder he's always in a bad mood" some of my coworkers might say....lol)
Adam4Adam..... been A4A free for a minute now and I don't miss it. For the first month, it was kinda like "Damn, I'd like to see where the boys are...." but now it's like ho-hum, whatever.
Even though I felt some kind of way about not getting any attention when I was in a few situations where I could and should have gotten some. Imagine going to a club (ladies and gay men) and you have brought your A game, and like nothing happens. Nada.
I was in that situation very recently and it's like damn.... I haven't felt better about myself in months, yet for whatever reason, that's not translating to more attention.
Which is cool. Just...strange.
Somebody told me (and I don't know how I feel about this if it's true) that people weren't approaching me because of who I was. Not that I am famous, but I guess I am known among certain circles. *shrug* I just write books. I'm still Rah-Rah.
But back to the Queernet..... hoping to cast my Queernet wider this weekend and find out if Home Skillet has a man. What his story is. Etc.
Posted by Rashid on August 5, 2006 5:34 PM