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The Man List
The man list is like this..... and maybe this won't work for everyone, but it worked for me. Thanks to TG for suggesting I create this, and thanks to my years in education for inspiring the rubric model of this.
So I made a list of the qualities I'm looking for in a partner. This is not new. I've had one ever since Kameelah from The Real World: Boston had her list. But I thought that since I'm older and more certain of what I'm looking for, maybe it's time for a new approach.
I made a chart with four columns. The first column lists all the "Content Areas" -- categories by which I can define what it is I am looking for. My first row and "Content Area" is Overall Appearance.
The second column represents the "Minimum Standard" in that content area. This column is key, because it defines exactly what it is I will and will not tolerate in the content area. In the Overall Appearance row, I have listed what I am looking for. I will not share that, because it's personal, but I do have a broad definition of beauty.
I do NOT go into reason why in that column. The NEXT column is "Rationale" which is where I go into the "whys" -- it's important to note why you believe certain things. Force yourself to write them -- you might find yourself reevaluating.
The final column is "Measurement" -- or "How will I know the standard has been met?" This will be challenging for non-educators. What I chose to do is write down what I might hear or see if the standard has been met. If I have a Content Area about the potential partner's hobbies, and I list that they cannot have been incarcerated, then my measurement might be "Votes during elections."
I know, it's weird, I'm neurotic, so what? LOL
I know what I'm looking for at least, and I believe that person exists and is attainable.
Posted by Rashid on December 20, 2006 5:57 PM
Comments
i guess its good to be optimistic...i perfer just telling people they need to change...saves me alot of trouble. lol
Commented by montre on December 21, 2006 12:32 AM